so other people can see here is what i did to get it working:

pg_hba.conf:

host    all        all            192.168.0.0/24          password

postgresql.conf:

# - Connection Settings -

#listen_addresses='localhost'           # what IP address(es) to listen on;
listen_addresses = '*'

good luck!
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